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Last week, after much deliberation I decided to cut my hair...not a huge deal. But it's something I had been wanting to do and after finally finding a picture of what I wanted I made the appointment. I went in, showed the nice lady what I wanted, she nodded and then preceded to give me a completely different hair cut.
This wasn't completely her fault I must concede. She suggested a few things and rather than saying "No, I'd prefer to stick with what is in the picture", I in an attempt to be agreeable and nice, said "Sure, whatever you think is best".
So, here I am with a haircut I'm not in love with thinking to myself, "why didn't I just say something then?".
How often has this happened to you? You order something, it's not quite right, but not wanting to make a scene or upset anyone, you just go with it. Someone asks something of you, and you, despite knowing that you don't have the time and are stressed to the max, agree to do it, to be nice. How much of our lives are spent bending to the will of others to make them happy without thinking of what would make us happy? And often times it wouldn't matter one iota if we spoke our mind. If I had actually spoke up about what I wanted, the hair dresser probably wouldn't have cared at all.
I'm not suggesting that we should all become rude and demanding, but that we shouldn't put ourselves last even when it doesn't seem to be a big deal. If you consistently put yourself last, where will you end up? I contend that putting ourselves first from time to time will actually benefit everyone. You will feel happier and more fulfilled and when someone does ask something of you and you are able to do it, you will feel happier to oblige them and less likely to resent it.
Growing up, there's always an emphasis on being kind to others, which is certainly important. There should also be an emphasis on being kind to ourselves. Consider your needs, speak kindly about yourself, try not to engage in inner criticism too often, and don't forget to be nice to yourself from time to time, because you are pretty great.
Hi there! I'm Skeeter. I grew up moving a lot and that makes me a bit restless for travel and exploration. I started this blog with my husband Pat when we decided to backpack New Zealand for a year. We are always looking for the next adventure and are loving life. We're just your average couple with two sassy dogs and a love for travel. We're sharing our travels and the tips we pick up along the way.
Hello! I'm Liz. Blogging is very new to me, but I'm so excited to finally write as much as I talk!
"Don't forget to travel happy"-Skeeter & Liz