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I think self doubt is something that most people struggle with, I know I do. Did I get the right degree? Am I in the right career, city? Should I have done X, Y, Z? What should I do next? I wish I would have worked harder at (fill in the blank). Should I just wait it out, and see if things work out? Should I even bother pursuing my dreams, they've never worked out before?
First, I want to say that if you've had these thoughts, you are completely normal. It's normal, and good to reflect on the choices we've made and are going to make. The one thing we have to be careful of is letting our perceived past mistakes handcuff us from making new choices. Those who risk nothing, gain nothing. Sure, you may take a risk and fail miserably. But what is failure, but a chance to try again, but a bit better this time? Maybe you decide that you don't like your current career, and want to try something different. So you do, and then realize that its also not for you. You may kick yourself for wasting money, time, and resources on something that didn't work out. But what you can be happy with is knowing that you weren't afraid to try, and that you now have more clarity about what you do want to do. The things I regret most are when I was too afraid to try something, not failing at something I was brave enough to try.
I am a firm believer that things happen for a reason. Both our failures and successes are here to lead us down a path. I also believe that its impossible to know what your path through life will look like. If you had asked me where I would be three years ago, I would not have been able to tell you what my path ended up looking like. I also have no idea where I'll be three years from now. It gives me a bit of anxiety not knowing, but it also makes me happy. I'm happy knowing that great things that I couldn't have even dreamed up could happen. I'm happy knowing that I have it within me to overcome whatever life throws at me, and so do you.
If you're thinking that the path you are on isn't right for you, do something! The longer you wait, and sit in fear to take the next step, the more time you're wasting living a life that isn't all you can make it. We only get one chance at this, don't live a life that isn't the best version of yourself. Want to go to med school? Move to Spain? Teach Yoga? Volunteer in Africa?Start making a list of what you have to do to make it happen. I guarantee you that when you're making that list, you're going to run into some serious obstacles. Whatever you do, don't let those obstacles stop you. Make another list of what you have to do to punch those obstacles in the face. Whenever I start to doubt my ability to do something, I always tell myself that "people have done this before, and if they can do it, so can I". Even if it's something that no one has ever done before, there's no reason why you can't be the first. People have walked on the moon! If they can do that, you can move to Costa Rica, or run a marathon, or become a surgeon...or whatever your heart desires! Hell, you can be a marathon running surgeon in Costa Rica! If you can dream it, you can do it. And that's not motivational mumbo jumbo, it's the truth.
Nothing makes me sadder then when I hear people say " I wish I could do that". They always seem to have this look in their eyes of regret. As if they could have a do-over, that they would change everything and go live their dreams. Each and every day is a do-over. There are very few decisions that we make in this life that can't be undone. Even that terrible tattoo you got in Tijuana can be lasered off.
So don't waste another second. Pick up a pen and paper and start making a plan. Use the power of the internet to learn everything you can to make your dream happen. Reach out to people who are living your dream now. Want to be a doctor? Call a few and see if you can take them out for coffee and pick their brain. Want to volunteer in Africa. Find a charity that you like. Send them an email and see what you can do and what it takes to be successful. And don't get discouraged if you get shot down. 27 publishers rejected Dr. Seuss' first book. 27! That's a lot of rejection...but not enough to keep someone who truly loves and believes in what they are doing.
As long as you keep doing your best and making progress you can know you're on the right path. It's only when we stop trying that our path will reach a dead end. Don't be afraid to forge a new path, and don't let anyone get in your way.
Hi there! I'm Skeeter. I grew up moving a lot and that makes me a bit restless for travel and exploration. I started this blog with my husband Pat when we decided to backpack New Zealand for a year. We are always looking for the next adventure and are loving life. We're just your average couple with two sassy dogs and a love for travel. We're sharing our travels and the tips we pick up along the way.
Hello! I'm Liz. Blogging is very new to me, but I'm so excited to finally write as much as I talk!
"Don't forget to travel happy"-Skeeter & Liz