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Solo travel is a huge trend right now. I love the concept behind it. In fact, I'd say I would totally give the advice that, "If you want to travel and can't find someone to go with, just go by yourself". I 100% stand behind that.
I want to be real though. Solo travel is hard! And not hard in the "It's all about the journey" kind of way. I found it really hard because I felt so alone. If you enjoy solitary time and prefer to recharge alone, then solo travel might be the bees knees. If that's not you, solo travel might be the worst.
Experiences are meant to be shared
Nothing has made me feel more alone then wanting to share something and having no one there. Feeling alone in a crowd is one of the worst feelings out there. It's something they don't really talk about when they're telling you how great solo travel is. You're going to have something funny, exciting, dangerous, amazing, or completely ordinary happen and have no one else there to talk about it with.
And I know that there are some people out there that are saying "shouldn't you be able to just appreciate the moment alone without having to talk about it with someone?"
Yes, perhaps. People are social animals though. The act of sharing our lives with others only enhances and enriches our experiences. I always feel like I'm forcing enthusiasm when I'm trying to appreciate traveling alone.
You can't depend on the people around you
There have been times when I've traveled alone that I have met amazing people. They were fun, friendly, and definitely took away that alone feeling. My first year at Sundance was like that. The group was fantastic! My second year at Sundance was not quite the same. It was still an amazing experience, but my group was not as social, not as friendly, and really made me feel more alone. It made for a lot tougher week. Tears were shed in my car at night, and the next time I went, I took a friend. I just got asked back for the fourth time and I'm happy to say I have a little fun group going along. It's going to be a blast!
I'll be honest, if I wasn't able to get a group together, I probably wouldn't have applied this year. If you love movies, you should definitely consider volunteering at the Sundance Film Festival. They treat their volunteers so well, and it's a lot of fun. But, after traveling on my own a couple of times, I know myself. I know that I can't depend on there always being a fun welcoming group ready to bring me into the fold. I know that I need that.
Traveling makes you more resilient. When you're alone though, you have to be ready to only have yourself. It's not a bad thing to know that you can hack it by yourself, but if you don't have to, why do it?
I feel safer
There are a few places where I've been by myself and I've felt totally safe (Japan). There's also been plenty of places where I did not feel safe. Think dark quite street with leering strangers. It might just be a perception of safety in numbers, but I DO feel safer when I travel with someone else. Some people like the adrenaline of traveling to dangerous places. Not me. I want to roam around and take things in. I don't want to be constantly fearful of my safety.
Even when you're with someone else, it's wise to be aware of your surroundings. I do find myself thinking about how I'd use my keys to stab an attacker less though when I'm with someone else. I just have to run faster than them....kidding!
You get to experience more
Traveling with someone else sometimes makes you try something you wouldn't have otherwise. It's an awesome way to get out of your bubble and discover something new. Simple as that.
It's important to pick someone you're going to mesh well with. Check out our "10 Essentials to a Great Travel Companion" for ideas when picking someone. I have had great travel buddies, and not so great. Travelling with a bad travel buddy will make you think solo travel is the only way to go. You must choose wisely!
Bill Murray's advice is spot on! Finding someone that you enjoy travelling with is not easy. When you do though, don't let them go. That's a special person right there! Traveling with someone you really enjoy will always be better than travelling solo.
If travelling solo is what you have to do, then do it! I urge you though to find someone to travel with, whether that's a friend, a family member, a spouse, a boyfriend/girlfriend, or even your dog.
Life is meant to be shared. So go out there, find someone, and travel happy!
What about you? Do you love or hate traveling solo? Let me know in the comments : )
Hi there! I'm Skeeter. I grew up moving a lot and that makes me a bit restless for travel and exploration. I started this blog with my husband Pat when we decided to backpack New Zealand for a year. We are always looking for the next adventure and are loving life. We're just your average couple with two sassy dogs and a love for travel. We're sharing our travels and the tips we pick up along the way.
Hello! I'm Liz. Blogging is very new to me, but I'm so excited to finally write as much as I talk!
"Don't forget to travel happy"-Skeeter & Liz